Tools
Free tools for couples
Quick answer
These tools exist because reading about marriage changes little if the conversation never happens. They are free, they run in your browser and they ask for no sign-up: a nine-area assessment and a library of questions to talk through together.
Marriage assessment Eighteen statements across nine areas. At the end you see your strengths, the area asking for attention, and where to begin. No sign-up. 5–7 minutes → Questions for couples More than 64 open questions grouped by topic, with a picker to draw one and talk about it tonight. Use it today → Truce agreement A free tool to agree a pause signal, a minimum time and who reopens the conversation. Two minutes to fill in, and nothing gets sent anywhere. 2 minutes → The two money numbers A free tool to agree your consultation threshold and each person’s personal amount. Two figures that remove most spending arguments. 3 minutes → From complaint to request A free tool to turn "I need you to be more present" into something with a day, a time and a size. If it does not fit on a calendar, it is not a request yet. 3 minutes → Hard conversation plan A free tool to prepare a hard conversation: the moment, the single topic, the opening sentence and the exit signal. Improvising is what makes them end badly. 4 minutes →
Why they are free
Because a tool you pay for before it has helped is not a tool. These two work on their own, with no account and no email. What the app is for is what has to be sustained day after day: the daily devotional as a couple and the guided journeys.
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